Motherhood.
It would have to be, in my opinion, the single most important job in the world. We (along with the Daddies of the world) are responsible for shaping the future generation into kind and wonderful human beings. It's a pretty scary thought when you really put it into perspective. The future rests right at our fingertips.
We are all in the same boat. Breastfeeding, bottle feeding, cloth nappies, disposable nappies, homemade baby food, store bought baby food, co sleeping, baby in a seperate room from day one. Each and every one of us no matter what choices we make are sitting here in the same boat. So my question is - why is there still so much judgement in the Mummy world? So much 'one upping'? We are all here trying to just make it through to bed time, maybe some of us have spent the day yelling more than we would have liked to, not doing as many activities with the kids as we hoped to, not even making it out of our pjs even though we wanted to - who am I kidding, it's raining here, I've had no intention whatsoever to get out of my pjs today! But you get my point. I see it constantly, Mummas bringing other Mummas down over their choices or trying to compete and it sucks.
Motherhood can be an extremely isolating and scary time. Sometimes you might feel like there is literally no one else going through what you are going through right now, no one else feeding their sweet babe for the sixth time through the night when in reality, there are hundreds - even thousands of women in your exact position right now yet however we are feeling just gets swept under the rug for fear of being judged. I know I felt this way as a first time mum, hell I even feel it sometimes now. Some times it feels like Motherhood is taboo, it shouldn't be spoken about, our hard days shouldn't be spoken about. But you know what? I believe in the honesty of Motherhood. Admitting when you are struggling to get the housework done or juggle the kids or that you are going batshit crazy with cabin fever because you haven't left the house for three weeks and your new signature perfume is Eau de Baby Vomit because you've barely had a chance to shower. Find your tribe and hold onto them. That group of Mummas who lift your spirits whether you all parent the same or not. That group you can discuss any topic far and wide over coffee without judgement. It is amazing what having a solid tribe beside you can do. We as women are strong and powerful, if we all just focused our energy into the positive and not the negative, imagine the places we could go and the things we could achieve by lifting each other up instead of knocking others down.
well written :)
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